Book Review: The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck by Mark Mason

Published: September, 2016 by Harper

Pages: 224The Subtle act of not giving a Fck

Genre: Non-Fiction

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Publisher’s Blurb: In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be “positive” all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. “F**k positivity,” Mark Manson says. “Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it.” In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—”not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault.” Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

The Author: Mark Manson (born 1984) is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he’s been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries. He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net

My Thoughts: First of all, I would start by congratulating myself for two things – the ability to start and finally finish reading my first non fiction book this year and my first ebook ever! However, I must state that the title wasn’t attractive to me at all but after reading the mixed reviews and to be honest scanning through a list of non-fiction titles on my TBR, I thought maybe I should go for the one with the outrageous title. I enjoyed reading this book not because the principles in the book are new to me but I loved the way the writer presented and personalized all the ideas to encourage people live a better life. I believe my take away from this book is simply about choice. Being deliberate about the choices I make, about what I care about and what I don’t. There is no room for indifference. There were many parts of the book that made me laugh out loud and I guess that helped in encouraging me to get to the end especially when self-help books are really not my thing.  I have some favorite quotes from this book below…

“Ultimately, the only way to achieve meaning and a sense of importance in one’s life is through rejection of alternatives, a narrowing of freedom, a choice of commitment to one place, one belief or (gulp) one person”

“People with strong boundaries understand that it’s unreasonable to expect two people to accommodate each other 100% and fill every need the other has. People with strong boundaries understand that they may hurt someone’s feelings sometimes, ultimately they can’t determine how other people feel. People with strong boundaries understand that a healthy relationship is not about controlling one another’s emotions, but rather about each partner supporting the other in their individual growth and in solving their own problems”

If you think you need a boost in aspects of your life or relationships that requires prioritization and confidence, then this may be your booster. Finally, I would give this book 3 stars out of 5 because it kept me going till the end.


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